Lovesick - Tips

Break the connection. When you feel lovesick, break the connection, at least for a certain time. That is needed for you to recover. Maybe your ex-lover will get another place in your life later, just as a friend. But right now not.

This means no contact. So no meeting, but also no email, whatsapp messages, telephone, skype, facebook, letters etc.

Make sure you don't have constant reminders of your ex. Remove pictures, delete conversations on your phone, don't check his facebook page, etc.
Don't do things that remind you of him/ her which makes you lovesick.

Your brain and your body need to recover from the break. You have to reconnect with yourself.

Move and do sports. Stay physically active by moving, because

1) you (temporarily) go away from the sad feelings and behavior.

2) by active movement, hormones are released in your body that make you feel good.

So go and do sports, for example running or swimming. Or go dancing.

They say that time heals and often this is true! But until that time it is important to arrange quality time for yourself, so that you can forget your suffering for a while.

Go ask friends out, ask them to do nice things with you, talk with hem. This can be a big relief and can speed up the process.

My advice would be to bear it for a while that you feel lovesick. It is not a nice feeling, it hurts and it can feel like the end of the world for you.

Realize the feeling comes up and also will go again, it will not stay like this forever and the whole will be filled again.

Get a massage. This will make it easier for you to relax and by being touched, the hormone oxytocine will increase which will make you feel better.

When you had to break up with a loved one and you feel lovesick, create a goodbye ritual to help you make peace with the fact that he/she is not in your life anymore. This can give space to a feeling of gratitude for what you have shared and will help you to move on.

Of course you feel sad, you can embrace yourself, take good care of yourself, reconnect with yourself. Reconnect with people you love and maybe didn't have time to meet so often anymore before.

Many many people over the years and over the world have felt like they died when a relationship ended. Most of them survived ;-) Realize that, however intense the feeling is right now... this too shall pass.

Longing for love? Go out and meet people! Love them as much as you can. They will return it to you and at some point... who knows.... maybe that that one special person you are looking for will suddenly show up. If he/ she is there, you will have to create the possibility to meet him/her!

Are your suffering from lovesickness? Could you use some support?

A relationship counsellor can help you.

Realize: I can survive everything! First every second, then every minute and then suddenly every hour. It really gets better!