(Zoom) Relationship Therapist St Heliers - Auckland
188 St Heliers Bay Road - St Heliers
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Caitrin | Therapist
(Zoom) Relationship Therapist St Heliers - Auckland
I am an open, caring and positive (Relationship) Therapist. I hold a Bachelor of Science, a Post Graduate Diploma and a Masters Degree in Psychology.
I provide a safe space for couples to come and work on their relationship difficulties, however these may look. The breakdown of a relationship can take many forms; a lack of empathy / a lack of emotional support / a breakdown of communication / not enough time spent together / infidelity / a breakdown of trust / a lack of respect for one another / lost intimacy. I help couples restore what has been lost between them using a combination of Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT); many couples have successfully learnt how to open up to one another again using these interventions.
Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) can be helpful when couples are finding it difficult to communicate effectively. Role play scenarios can be used; whereby a couple will feign an argument and then practise conflict resolution using constructive communications skills such as active listening and displays of empathy. As well, we can talk through difficult real life scenarios together and use the same constructive communication skills to see if we can find resolution. It can also be helpful to talk through emotions and have a partner and therapist actively listen; the release of difficult emotions from thought form into word form can be quite cathartic when done in a safe space.
Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help couples learn how to utilise mindfulness techniques to objectively observe thoughts and feelings so they can better communicate these to their partners. ACT teaches couples how to use a non-judgemental approach to conflict resolution. ACT also helps couples identify individual core values and then align some of these values, helping to promote similar goal oriented behaviour.
Cognitive Behaviour Therpay (CBT) helps couples identify negative thinking patterns, communication styles and behaviours that contribute to conflict within the relationship. Identification and alteration of these unhelpful/destructive thoughts, communication patterns and behaviours can lead to a healthier and more peacful relationship. All people hold some negative thoughts about themselves and these thoughts may be subconscious and deeply ingrained. Negative thinking about the self or about relationship norms can have a huge affect on how one behaves within a relationship; hence why its important to identify and adjust any negaitve thinking that is relevant to facets of a relationship.
In line with providing a safe space, it is important for me to clarify that any information you share with me will remain confidential unless I am concerned for your own safety or the safety of someone else. I have a supervisor who I will be working closely alongside to ensure that I am practicing to the best of my abilities. I will continue to attend workshops/training seminars as I see necessary to meet the needs of my clients.
As seen below, I charge $210 per session (each session lasting 1 hour). As well, I offer an initial 15 minute zoom consultation (free of charge). It is my belief, that in order for the therapist/client relationship to work , there must first be a positive rapport between therapist and client; the therapist must be a good fit for the client. A client can only know, whether or not a therapist is right for them, by talking to them.
If you are intrested in booking a free 15 minute zoom consultation, to see if I could be of any assistance in providing a more resilient relationship between you and your partner, please send me a message.
Online therapy
I will be working mainly online via zoomIf you prefer face to face, I will be renting rooms at Fillan Healthcare:
188 St Heliers Bay Road, St Heliers, Auckland 1071.
Qualifications and registrations
I hold a Bachelor of Science, a Post Graduate Diploma and a Masters Degree in Psychology. I was registered as a Psychologist with the New Zealand Psychology Board (NZPB) for 6 years up unitl 2019.
I held an Annual Practicing Certificate for the years of 2012-1019 after which I took time away to raise my now school aged son. I am currently in the process of reapplying for registration with the NZPB after which I will apply for an Annual Practicing Certificate (APC) for the year of 2025. Currently I do not hold an APC.
I have recently completed professional development with Dr Dennis Tirch in Compassion Focussed Therapy, a workshop with Dr David Tolin in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for anxiety related disorders and had a look at current research in the area of Psychedelic Medicine in a workshop with Dr Paul Liknaitzky.
I have attended Acceptance and Commitment Therapy workshops with Dr Russ Harris; one was a two day training workshop on the use of ACT techniques for psychological disorders and the other was a follow up workshop in the use of ACT techniques in anxiety disorders. I have done a Hypnosis workshop with Dr Bob Large, looking at the use of hypnosis for anxiety and behaviour change.
I have completed a two day course on the relevance of Maori world views and Treaty of Waitangi in the context of psychological health. I have completed a culture and cultural competency workshop looking at the importance of understanding different cultural views as a healthcare professional.
Thanks to my time spent interacting with and learning from clients, engaging with the many tools available online and making use of the very important supervisor/supervisee relationship I also have experience in utlising the following therapeutic techniques: Narrative Therapy, Emotional Freedom Technique, Relationship Counselling, Mindfulness, Meditation, EMDR Therapy, DBT, Child/Youth Counselling and Career Counselling.
Registrations
I offer therapy in
Specialisations
- 1. Learning healthy communication
- 2. Learning to see your partner
- 3. Making time for your partner
- 4. Resolving conflict / listening
- 5. Rebuilding trust
- 6. Learning to be intimate
Specialisations and Expertises
Couples may feel like they are talking to one another all the time but this doesnt necessarily mean that they are communicating effectively. Communication is the cornerston of a healthy relationship and without it a couple cannot express their thoughts, feelings, and needs. Healthy communication plays a huge role in navigating conflict; couples can learn to problem solve together if they consistently check in with one another and maintain an open line of communication. Healthy communication is about listening to your partner when they are speaking, its about making one another feel heard.When your partner acknowledges your inner emotional experiences, your contributions to the relationship, and your entire identity, you are seen by your partner. Feeling unseen is the complete opposite, it is when your partner neglects you, disregards your needs, and invalidates your emotional experiences. If a person feels unseen within a relationship their self esteem will suffer, they will feel worthless and disregarded.
Life maintenance can often take over couple time because it can feel never ending - cooking, chores, childcare, work etc. It is important that couples set aside regular time to be together so that they don't loose sight of one another amidst everyday life.
Arguments can be healthy ways of resolving conflict so long as listening takes place and the emotional temperature remains lowered. Shouting is not helpful as it suggests that only one person is talking and that this person is not listening. All couples argue, it is a normal and healthy part of a relationship. When couples attempt not to argue or try to avoid conflict, resentment, contempt, and a lack of forgiveness may be the result. This can create distance or strain between partners.
Most common issues I support people with:
Poor CommunicationFeeling Unseen
No time for one another
Arguments
Infidelity
Lack of trust
Intimacy issues
Therapies offered
- ✓ Couples coaching
- ✓ Couples counselling
- ✓ Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
- ✓ Family Dispute Resolution
Areas of counselling I can help with
- ✓ Addicted to love
- ✓ Adultery, affair, infidelity
- ✓ Attachment issues
- ✓ Autonomy in relationship
- ✓ Cheating
- ✓ Closed or open relationship
- ✓ Commitment phobia
- ✓ Communication problems
- ✓ Cultural differences
- ✓ Divorce & separation
- ✓ Emotional infidelity
- ✓ Family problems
- ✓ Fear of abandonment
- ✓ I want a relationship
- ✓ Insecure in relationship
- ✓ Intimacy issues
- ✓ Jealousy
- ✓ Love sick
- ✓ Marriage problems
- ✓ Midlife crisis
- ✓ Relationship anxiety
- ✓ Relationship fights
- ✓ Self love
- ✓ Sex addiction
Fees
$210 per session, each session lasting 1 hour.I offer sliding scale therapy pricing. If you and your partner are in a position where you currently have fewer resources, please message me and we can try to work out a fee that better suits you both.
Availability (Opening hours)
Monday | 9.30am - 7.30pm |
Tuesday | 9.30am - 2.30pm |
Wednesday | 9.30am - 7.30pm |
Thursday | 9.30am - 2.30pm |
Friday | 9.30am - 7.30pm |
Saturday | 9.30am - 2.30pm |
Sunday | - |
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